1. Take some time to write down  in childhood, teenage and adulthood years- what was said, what was done and how it made you feel being as honest and transparent as you can. Writing is therapeutic but if that is a struggle do voice recordings. We may not have caused it nor deserved it. But we always have a choice how it affects us, how it grips us and how it molds us. We have been given all right, authority and dominion but we have to take our part in it by being willing to go through the process.

2. Have we repented and cleaned up our side of the street? Has He revealed anything lately we thought we were over and triggered all over again? Jesus tells us to take his burden which is light where the enemy is trying to inflict the wound all over again like it just happened. Which one will we decide to hold onto in our hearts, mind and behavior?

3. Let’s be proactive asking Him to illuminate any dark places in us so we can truly see all nine fruit of the spirit in our character. And While we are in process , which we all are, to quickly raw and transparent hand him our feelings so He can exchange them for His character so we can truly be the hands and feet of Christ, the repairer of the breach winning souls for Christ as we were originally created to be.

4. Examining people in our world, family and neighbors, how can we choose Christ today? In behavior, actions, deeds? So we can truly do the work of the Father as our family is our first ministry.